254: Holly Worton ~ How to Pull Yourself Up Out of a Low Vibe Place, Even When Your Path Isn't Clear

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I’m back again, with another solo episode! Thanks to a recent post in the Facebook group, today I’ll be talking about how to pull yourself up out of a low vibe place, even when your path isn’t clear, and you can’t see the way forward.

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How to pull yourself up out of a low vibe place so you can focus on moving forward
What to do when you can’t even see the path ahead
How to reconnect with your goal/vision/intention and pull yourself up out of a low vibe place
How to get back in touch with the foundation so you can focus on what you want
How to do the mindset work to get yourself back on track with the beliefs you need to move forward

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Holly: Hello and welcome to the Business Mindset Podcast, episode 254. This is your host Holly Worton and I am back with another solo episode.

Today, I am going to talk about how to pull yourself up out of a low-vibe place; so maybe your path isn’t clear, maybe you haven’t been achieving your goals, maybe you have set some big goals, but you feel like you are not going to achieve them, or you are just feeling down. This is something that happens from time to time in business and I kind of feel like we don’t talk about it enough. So, thanks to a comment in the Facebook group, I was inspired to do today’s topic.

But, before we get into today’s episode, I wanted to mention a podcast that I was recently a guest on. It is called: the dots. And this episode came out on May 29th, if you go to https://www.hollyworton.com/dots you will be redirected, but dots is a podcast that is all about connecting, which I find to be a really fascinating topic. So, this is something that was recorded, I think about a month ago, and I am really excited to be sharing it with you. As always, I would love for you to head over to these podcasts that I am guest on, check them out, I think it is a good way to discover new podcasts, I am always subscribing to new podcasts and letting go of old ones. I am always finding new things to listen to, there is so much out there now. So, I encourage you to head over to: https://www.hollyworton.com/dots and hear me talking all about business mindset over there, and that is that.

So, moving into the topic for today’s episode: how to pull yourself up out of a low-vibe place. So, first of all, identify why you are there. What happened to put you in this place of feeling crappy? Was it something that specifically happened? Was it something that didn’t happen? Was it something that you did? Was it something that you didn’t do? Was it something that someone else did? Just really get clear on the details. And, I think this is really important because I am a big fan of not sweeping things under the rug, because when you do that you can’t deal with the issue. It is still there, kind of festering in the background, even though you think it may have gone away.

So, I think it is really important to pull these things out, really take a look at what you are experiencing and why? How does it feel? How do you feel? What happened? Where are you on your path right now, as you are experiencing this thing? So, really tap into that low vibe and try to understand it, try to understand how you got there; but don’t linger in that space for too long. So, this is going to be all about how to get out of that space and pull you up out of it. So, be mindful, as you are exploring it, get the information that you need, but don’t kind of wallow in that crappy feeling. So, this episode is kind of related to last week’s episode with Joanna Hennon, where we were talking about how to make big goals happen, how to get things that you really, really, want and is wanting something enough, and how to stay in that kind of high vibe place when you are working towards a goal, or manifesting, or setting intentions or whatever it is. Kind of picking one very specific part of that episode that we mentioned, and we discussed, and I want to go deeper into it here. So, again, tap into it, but don’t wallow in that feeling, that can be really harmful and kind of drag you down into a spiral of depression or unhappiness, or negative feelings.

So, once you are clear what happened, why you are where you are, shift your focus to the goal, the intention, the vision. Start thinking about what you would rather have instead. What do you want instead of what you are currently experiencing? And try to focus on what you do want, rather than on what you don’t want. And this can be hard sometimes because people often focus on moving away from pain, rather than towards what they do want, but this is a really important shift to make. So, to help you shift away from the thing that you don’t want, reconnect with your goal, reconnect with your vision, reconnect with what you do want. Visualise what you want, journal on it. Do whatever works for you to tap into this vision.

So, I talked last week with Joanna Hennon, in the episode about this big house that we are manifesting and having some setbacks and getting disappointed every once in a while. What I was doing was, I was going back in and just visualising being in that house, living in that house, what it would be like, what I would be doing in the morning, having breakfast, working, new office, that kind of thing and just really getting into that feeling of experiencing that. So, that’s a very specific goal, but if you think about something like whatever your business goal is, maybe you have been wanting to write a book, but you are stuck on the book. So, visualise what it is going to be like to release this book. Visualise yourself talking to people about it, doing speaking engagements about it, going on podcasts to talk about it. How is that going to feel, to be doing those things? To be sharing your book with the world? Really focus on all the different aspects. What are you going to be doing? How are you going to be feeling? What are you going to be seeing, hearing, smelling? Really get into that. And again, some people are going to be naturally good at visualising this, just sitting kind of in meditation and focussing on it. Other people are going to find it easier to write about it and journal about it, some people are going to want to do both. So, do what works for you. but actively engage in your mind on the thing that you want, rather than the thing that you don’t want, is going to be a big shift that is going to help you get out of that low vibe place, so shifting your focus.

Now, if the path isn’t clear, and you are feeling lost, and you feel like: I don’t know where I am, I don’t know where I am going, I don’t know what to do and so, you don’t have something have something clear to focus on, you don’t have a clear vision, you don’t have a clear goal, you don’t have a clear intention, go back to the basics. So, go back to working on who am I? What is important to me? What do I want in life? What do I want for my business? How do I want to feel? And, I have mentioned this before, but I have some very old blog posts on this topic, which I will link to in the show notes. They are the ‘who am I? posts, basic life-coach-y kind of posts that can help you get clear on this. And I consider the: who am I question, to be the very first foundational question that I often go back to when I am shifting in my business, when I am shifting into a new identity, when things aren’t feeling right. So, really dig into that question: who am I? Really tap back into getting in touch with yourself, how do you want to feel? What do you want? Really, really, get clear on that and meditate on that, journal on it, think about it, mind map it, do the things that you need to do to get clarity on who you are and what you want in your life and your business, and then see if, from there, some ideas, things pop into your head, dreams come back, see what starts shifting for you. But it is really important when you are feeling lost to go back to that foundation step.

Mindset work

Next, is to do the mindset work. Now I always talk about this, because this is business mindset podcast, and this is my thing, but think about the following:

What do you need to believe for you to have clarity on your path?
What do you need to believe about yourself to be able to move forward?
Who do you need to be to achieve your goals? To achieve your dreams? To live the life that you want? To have the business that you want?

And from there, if you are the kind of person who uses PSYCH-K®, or other techniques that work with specific beliefs, form some belief statements around that and balance for them.

If you do a different kind of work, do whatever you need to do with that information to transform that into tapping scripts, or whatever technique it is that you use.

And if you are really, really, unclear, and you are really feeling lost, and you really don’t know what to work on, work on the basics, work on the foundation stuff:

Confidence and self-trust. So, what do you need to have the confidence to do, that you don’t feel like you do right now? Do you trust yourself, do you trust in your ability to achieve these goals? To achieve these dreams? What about self-esteem? Work on your self-esteem. Work on believing that you are the kind of person who can do the things, and who is valuable, who has valuable things to offer the world. Do some work on action. Your ability to take action towards your goals. Your ability to achieve your goals. Work on change and growth. Your ability to make changes in your life. Your ability to grow as a person. To grow as a business owner. Work on personal power. Work on your beliefs around having the power to do the things that you want to do. Work on strategy, clarity, vision, your ability to create a strategy that you can implement, that you have the clarify to create a vision that excites you. Work on your value, work on your self-worth. Work on your ability to be successful, to see opportunities when they come your way and take action on them.

Now, if you have read my book: Business Beliefs or my Business Blocks book, some of these topics should sound familiar, because a lot of them are specific categories of business beliefs or business blocks from that book, or those two books. So, work on these foundation beliefs, work on your ability to believe that you can move forward and create the business and the life that you want and dream of. And, if you are still feeling lost, do some beliefs, do some work around your ability to see your path, to have clarity, to see the way forward. One thing that I have mentioned many times on this podcast is my friend Cara Wilde’s New Identity Masterclass and I will share the link to that in the show notes. There is an excellent, excellent, excellent, I think it is about 50 minutes long, guided meditation/workshop that helps you get clear on the new identity that you need to step into as you move forward into this new phase of your business or life. So, check that out, that is also very, very, useful. And, it is something that will help pull you out of where you are and help you to think about your new path forward.

Steps

So, these are the main steps:

Identify what’s going on right now. Where are you? Why you are in this low vibe.
Reconnect with your goal or your vision.
Shift your focus to what you do
And if you are still feeling lost, if you feel like the path isn’t clear, get back in touch with the basics: who am I and what do I want?
And do the mindset work.

Whether or not you have clarity on your path, this is something I recommend doing all the time. Once you set new goals, do the mindset work that you need to do to make sure that you have the beliefs that you need to have to make those goals come true.

So, you can do this however you like, if you have a morning ritual, you can build this work into your morning ritual, you can spend an afternoon doing it, a day doing it. But, I highly recommend that you take action on it now. If you are now in a spot that is low vibe, not feeling good, you have got to get yourself out of that spot as soon as possible. And pull yourself up into a high vibe place of confidence, and trust in yourself, and clarity on your vision, and that energy of moving forward towards what you do want, because that low vibe place is often a place of inaction, it is a place of just kind of stagnant crappiness. So, it is all about moving forward, not just in terms of taking action, but moving forward with your mindset, moving forward with your beliefs, your attitudes.

So, in addition to these steps that I have already shared with you, there are plenty of other things you can do to help lift yourself up into a higher vibration.

So, do things that you love, are you a musical kind of person? Play some music. Do you love going on nature walks, like I do? Get outdoors. And I recognise that sometimes when we are in that low vibe place it can be really, really, hard to pull ourselves out of it and do the things that we love, and sometimes you have kind of just got to force yourself to do it. So, if you like getting outdoors, getting fresh air, go on a nature walk. Exercise, move, as I said you want to pull yourself into that high vibe place of movement, of taking action, of moving forward, so go for a run, go for a walk, go to the gym, move your body, and sometimes moving your body physically will help your mindset to move, and to get you taking those actions that you need to take.

Tap in with friends. So, personal friends, business friends, if you have a mastermind, or a master-gut, like my group I always mention. Get in touch with those friends, talk to them, hopefully they are the kind of people who should be uplifting and help lift you up out of that, and help you to see and reconnect with your path. Play, whatever that means to you, play could be reading a book, it could be playing games with your dog, it could be I don’t know whatever it is that you do to play that brings you joy, that brings you kind of a sense of fun. If you have children play with your children. And I mentioned reading, you might just distract your mind by reading a good book. Sometimes that can help you disconnect from the crap that is going on in your mind and redirect it on another path.

Gratitude, doing gratitude work is always a good way to get into a good spot. So, maybe write a list of 10 things that you are grateful for, and why. That can be really, really useful. That’s something that I do on and off, I go through phases where I do it every day for months, and then I stop for months, and then I start again. So, it is the kind of thing that I do, I guess on an as-needed basis and when I have recommended this people I often get: oh, I have tried that, but I don’t like it. So, if you are the kind of person who resists doing gratitude work maybe you just do it as needed, so if you are feeling low, just crank out 10 things that you are grateful for, and that’s it, you don’t need to do it tomorrow or the day after, unless you feel like you do. But, just doing that one page of 10 or so things can help lift you up out of that low vibe place.

Decluttering is also really, really, useful. Declutter your office, your kitchen, your bedroom, your loft, anywhere in your home, whatever, declutter some part of your physical – your clothing – some part of your physical environment or declutter the files on your computer if you have got stuff that is a mess and you need to organise. Decluttering can be really, really, useful because, again, the act of releasing and letting go of physical stuff, can help you to release and let go of the mind stuff that’s not serving you. And, it is also movement, because when you are de-cluttering you are not just sitting there tossing stuff, you have got to be moving, you have got to be in your closet going through your clothes, or going through your books in your office, there is movement involved in that. And I said this before when I was talking about exercise, but I really think that physical movement can be very helpful in getting you out of that low vibe place, because it is movement, it is action, and any kind of action that you enjoy, that’s helping you, that’s helping you feel better, can help start shifting your mindset. Can start shifting your mind from focussing on what you don’t want, to focussing on what you do want.

Summary

So, to just run through that list again: move, go on nature walks, get outdoors, exercise, go for a run, go for a swim, get in touch with friends, business friends, masterminds, personal friends, people that lift you up, play, read, do gratitude work, declutter. The most important thing that I would hope that you take away from this episode is: when you sense that you are in that low vibe place, you are feeling a little depressed, you are down you are disappointed, get out of that place. Do what you need to do, whether it is any of the things that I recommended today, or something else, do what you need to do to get your mind out of that place. And I know sometimes it can be challenging to turn it around, it is almost like sometimes you kind of want to wallow in that crappiness of that emotional suffering, and sometimes it can be hard to even see that there is a way out of it, but when you realise that you are there, do what you need to do to get out of that place, listen to music that inspires you, listen to podcasts that inspire you, read things that inspire you. Do what you need to do to get out of that place, and sift your mind, from what you don’t want to what you do want, that is the important thing and it is not just shifting your conscious mind, as I was saying, working on your mindset is about working on the subconscious stuff as well. So, shift your conscious mind, shift your subconscious mind, shift your energy into that space of what you do want, where you want to be, how you want to feel. The important thing now that you have shifted your mindset from that lower vibration into the higher vibration is, start taking action towards your goals, towards your vision, towards your intention. So, make a list of the things that you need to do, or the things that you could do, pick one thing and start taking action. This is really, really, important as I always say, the mindset work is half of it and taking action is the other half.

So, you have now lifted yourself up out of that low place and you are ready to move forward. Create an action list for yourself and start working on it. And that is all for today, so good luck to you. If you have any questions please drop me a line, you can email me at: [email protected] or find me in the Facebook group: http://HollyWorton.com/group. I get people joining the group every week who listen to the podcasts, so I would love to see you in there and actually know who is listening to this and make contact with you And hopefully get some ideas for future episodes and discuss episodes that have already been out, I would love to connect. So, http://HollyWorton.com/group will redirect you to the Facebook group. If for some reason you don’t get in, or you get an error message, just pop me an email, let me know, try to join again and I will keep an eye out for your request to join. I check the group every day, except on weekends, so I usually approve people within 24 hours Monday-Friday. Again, thank you for listening if you enjoyed this episode please leave a quick review on Apple podcasts or iTunes, it would mean the world to me.

And next week’s episode, I am back with the fabulous Jo Casey. We will be talking about how to navigate the new era of email marketing. So, we are going to talk about what the new culture shift with email marketing looks like. Why list building will no longer be the most important thing in marketing. Why this will help us disentangle our worth as entrepreneurs from the size of our list. How these changes will affect the numbers game that we all got used to playing. What we need to focus on instead of just counting our list size. We talk about how to focus on creating real connections with people rather than just blasting out a message. We are going to talk about why conversational marketing works better than broadcasting. We are going to talk about new things you can do to truly connect with people as individuals and not just as numbers on a list. We are finally going to talk about why consent leads to healthier relationships in our marketing. So, this was obviously recorded just the day that the GPDR guidelines went into effect, so it was still at the top of our minds, so I think now hopefully we have all recovered from the GDPR rush to become compliant that was going on earlier this month. So, that is all for today, I hope to see you next week, so if you are interested in learning about the new era of email marketing tune into that and I hope to see you in the Facebook group in the meantime.

So, have a great week, and remember to visit hollyworton.com/254 for the show notes on this episode. Thank you so much for listening.

254: Holly Worton ~ How to Pull Yourself Up Out of a Low Vibe Place, Even When Your Path Isn’t Clear